When you find yourself in the middle of a longstanding, gnarly dilemma, and you can’t find your way out, hand it over. As Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
After all, you’re at the heart of the dilemma. Hand it to your Higher Self, Soul, Atman, Deliverer. Trust that this problem will be addressed without any interference from you. You don’t have to figure anything out. You’ve already tried. This takes discipline because your mind will try to wrestle with it one more time. But you’re not the problem solver, at least not this time. If you were, you’d be done with it by now. Let go.
Eventually an insight will occur to you, more ease will overtake you, a way through will show itself. Extend your gratitude. Faith is on its way.